"This isn’t about judging. We judge too much."
Nicki Minaj took to Twitter this weekend to offer poignant advice to women trapped in abusive relationships.
For the thread, the rapper drew from her own life experiences.
She advised those witnessing women in toxic relationships to not "laugh & say mean things." Instead they should "try to offer sound advice from your heart & root for her to learn her worth."
In her next tweet, she listed signs of an abusive partner, warning that "A man who loves you does not" do such things.
She mourned that Instagram was warping people's perceptions with "relationship goal pics."
She also tweeted:
"I remember being so afraid to speak cuz I never knew when that person would be in a particular mood and I could maybe say one wrong thing that would get me hit. So the diff you see in me now is that feeling when a woman feels lifted up, safe, appreciated & unconditionally loved."
At the end of the thread, she says she learned to love herself, concluding: "This isn’t about judging. We judge too much. Lift them up."
When u see a woman in a toxic relationship, rather than laugh & say mean things, try to offer sound advice from your heart & root for her to learn her worth. We’ve all been there. I saw my parents fight & argue non stop & never divorce, so I thought this was normal behavior...
— Nicki Minaj (@NICKIMINAJ) September 1, 2019
Dear all of you beautiful souls.
A man who loves you does not:
1. Humiliate you on social media
2. Beat you
3. Cheat on you
4. Call you out of your name/put you down to lower your self esteem due to his own insecurities.
5. Hide his phone, passwords, where abouts, etc.— Nicki Minaj (@NICKIMINAJ) September 1, 2019
I rlly used to think love had to hurt. So I could never look down on anyone else. We are merely human. It’s not easy to leave. Especially in the world of IG where all ppl want to do is post relationship goal pics for clout & attention. A man should make you feel safe, not afraid
— Nicki Minaj (@NICKIMINAJ) September 1, 2019
I remember being so afraid to speak cuz I never knew when that person would be in a particular mood and I could maybe say one wrong thing that would get me hit. So the diff you see in me now is that feeling when a woman feels lifted up, safe, appreciated & unconditionally loved.
— Nicki Minaj (@NICKIMINAJ) September 1, 2019
But I first had to learn how to love MYSELF. 🙏🏾 if you wouldn’t let a man treat your mother, your sister or best friend like that b/c you LOVE them, then you wouldn’t let a man treat YOU like that b/c you love YOU. This isn’t about judging. We judge too much. Lift them up. 🙏🏾
— Nicki Minaj (@NICKIMINAJ) September 1, 2019
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